Have you ever seen your kid step into your high heels and trying to walk in them? It sounds funny, but it happens! If you have a little girl, you probably know by now how persistent they can be when it comes to getting what they want.
I have been working for a specialized children’s shoe store for over 10 years now, and I have seen kids’ pull every single trick in the book to get the shoes that they want! While your kids grow, they have a quest to follow the new trend of fashion. But the big question then is:
When is the right time to allow your kids’ to wear high heels? Could it eventually jeopardize their physical development?
Mommy wears high heels, so it is no surprise that your girl also wants to do the same. But how safe are high heels for growing kids? I will answer all these questions through the post, and show you which are the safest and most popular high heels for kids.
When parents ask me if they should allow their children to wear high heels I always tell them that it’s fine as long as they are fitted properly and the child wears them for a short period of time.
Your child will have a hard time trying to walk in high heels, and the learning process will be even harder if the shoes are not the correct size.
Did you know that there are certain high heels that come in wide widths for children who have wide or extra wide feet?
I will show you a selection of the best high heels for kids so you can keep your kids’ feet healthy and prevent them from developing foot issues. The styles I selected are the most comfortable ones that I fitted before and they come with more padding to prevent your child from developing blisters or other foot issues.
If you happen to have a young girl that is insisting you that she wants a pair of “fancy looking shoes” similar to high heels, there is a particular style that I have fitted before that she might love and it will safe for her to wear. It looks like this:
Let’s start by learning when it’s a good time for your child to wear high heels.
When Should Kids Start Wearing High Heels – Let’s Find Out!
Did you know that wearing high heels at an early age can have a negative impact in your kid’s musculoskeletal health? From the age of 3 and up until they are 12 years old, your kids’ bones are still forming and developing.
If you allow your kids to wear high heel shoes for long periods of time, you are making them more prone to developing foot and leg problems, such as the shortening of their tendons.
At about the ages of 12 and 16, your kid will have an easier time handling high heels, but you shouldn’t allow them to wear them for long periods of time, just for as long as that particular special occasion lasts.
I would say that a child is ready to wear high heels when they have grown old enough to walk with confidence in them.
While there is no pre-set age that it is appropriate for kids to wear high heels, MOST children start wearing them between the ages 12 to 14. However, you should use your best judgment to determine of a child can start wearing high heels at a younger age.
You must pay attention for things such as how stable your child is when she walks, how well she follows instructions (you want to emphasize that you should never run in heels), and how well the shoe fits the shape of her feet.
Now that we established at what age most girls should start wearing high heels, let’s move on and find out how safe it is for your girl to wear high heels.
How Safe are High Heels for Growing Girls?
It is one thing to allow your child to walk around the room in your heels for a few minutes or to attend a special occasion for a few hours, but another thing to buy her high heels to wear frequently, which could potentially damage her still-developing feet!
Did you know that ankle injuries in children can be more severe than in adults due to their developing bones? Normally; your feet act like spring-loaded, weight distributing shock absorbers, cushioning your entire body from crazy amounts of pounding.
Letting your kids walk in high heels for longer periods of time stiffens their Achilles tendons, it does for you, too, mom! So, what are some of the other consequences of wearing high heels shoes for longer periods of time?
- Joint Pains
- Shortened calf muscles
- Lower back pain
- Sprained ankles from falling
- Hammer toes
- Ingrown toenails
- Tightened of the heel cord
Do Fashion Shoes Always Lead to Pain? – They Don’t Have To!
When it comes to kids’ shoes, there are a ton of fashion shoes I have fitted to perfection, made by quality brands and from the softest products.
There are a ton of dressy flats or Mary Jane shoes that would look great on your kids’ feet, and feel way more comfortable than wearing high heels. Until your kid stops growing, there is a very high risk of causing bone and joint deformations of the foot.
The height of the heel, the amount of time she spends wearing the shoes and the frequency of wear all contribute to high-heels associated foot problems.
Parents have asked me an important question: Do high heels come in wide widths for kids?
The answer is: YES (one of the styles that I describe below is actually available in wide widths).
The Most Comfortable High Heels for Kids ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
Let’s look at the most comfortable and best made high heels for kids that I have fitted before. Please keep in mind that I only review shoes styles that I have fitted before, since that is the only way for me to tell the quality and support that the shoes have to offer, as well as how they fit. The style called” Seeley” is available in wide widths.
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These high heels all fit “short”, which means that you need to go a whole size longer of the size that your child measures in the standard foot measuring scale (Brannock device) in order to allow for growing room.
I will also describe the best alternative to high heels which is wedges and they still look stylish, prevent some of the damages that high heels cause, and allow your child to feel more stable and confident when walking.
Most parents don’t know that high heels for kids’ come in wide widths, so help me spread the word!
What Alternatives Do I Have To High Heels?
As a parent, you must have heard more than once about how bad it is to wear high heels for long periods of time. I am not telling you that your child should never wear high heel shoes; I am stating the consequences of wearing high heel shoes for long periods of time.
I know little girls can be persistent when it comes to getting a shoe that they really want, especially when they see some of their friends wearing them.
At the shoe store that I work for, several parents have asked me about the difference between high heels and wedges, and which may be more appropriate for the child to wear.
Here is how I look at it: a wedge is where the whole sole of the shoe from the toe to the heel makes contact with the floor. The bottom part of the shoe where the heel is located is higher than the portion at the toe, while a high heel is where there are two separate parts in contact with the floor, one at the toe and one at the heel which is higher.
For better clarification, below you can find how a wedge shoe looks like:
Here you can find a picture of high heels:
If you believe your child is not ready for high heels, you should definitely consider wedges as a way of providing her with a fashionable alternative. Your child will be happy since she will still look stylish, and you will prevent some of the damage that high heels cause by allowing your child to feel more stable and confident when walking.
I wrote a post where I describe the best dress shoes for kids’ that they can wear for longer periods of time. You can find it here:
High Heels Vs Wedges – Which One is Better?
Wedges have a safer platform than high heel shoes, which provides your kid with more cushioning and support from the ground. Wedges also have more padding than high heels, which lowers the impact on your kid’s feet and legs each time they hit the ground.
There is a considerable difference between the stress kids put on their feet and legs in high heels than when they wear wedges.
The Most Comfortable Wedges for Kids ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐
I have put together a selection of the most comfortable and popular wedges for kids. Please refresh your browser if you can’t see the recommendations.
All of these wedge shoe styles fit “true to size”, which means that you need a half a size longer of the size that your child measures in the shoe measuring scale in order to allow for growing room.
When providing children with fashion shoes, we must consider stability as the main priority. High heels shoes simply put all of your kids’ weight on the front part of their feet leaving them no choice but to balance all their weight in the front, which eventually leads to having them to arch their back and walk that way for the entire time that they wear them.
Wedges play a huge role when it comes to stability since they distribute most all of the weight more evenly.
Now that you know the difference between high heels and wedges; it is time to determine which of the two is better. Just REMEMBER that the height of both shoes will put extra strain on your kid’s body!
I believe it is safer for kids’ to wear wedges than it is to wear high heels. The main reason is that wedges will allow your child to feel more stable.
Did you know that the higher the difference between the ball of the foot and your heel, the worse it is for your feet? The difference in height can add 25% more body weight for this your feet to cope with.
What is the Aesthetic Difference Between High Heels and Wedges?
I think most parents agree that high heels look best with more formal and elegant dresses while wedges suit more casual outfits. I am by no means a fashion adviser, but I have heard moms at the store say that the combination of wedges and dresses are very cute, especially in the spring and summer seasons.
Should Kids Wear High Heels or Not? – Fit Them Right!
My answer to this question is: use your parenting best judgment. The purpose of this post is to inform parents about how high heels can affect your kids’ feet, leg, and back health, but this can also be minimized by following certain guidelines.
If your child really wants a pair of high heels, there are things you can do to try to prevent and minimize injuries and foot pain, and it all starts by getting her the right high heel style in the correct size. Remember that there are a ton of dress shoes that may be safer and more comfortable, such as wedges, a sparkly pair of flats, or a black patent Mary Jane.
If you keep saying “no” to your child every time she asks for high heels, she will eventually stop asking, and hopefully come back to ask you at a more suitable age. I also provided you with an alternative: Wedges! Children still find them fun and attractive.
The Best Dress Shoes for Kids – Now You Know the Secret!
You should be asking yourself this important question before you decide which dress shoes to get for your child:
How long will your child be walking in them? Always consider how long your kids’ will walk in the shoes to help you make ta better decision.
Let your child wear wedges if she is going to be standing or walking for long periods of time, since they are more comfortable and provide more support, but if she is going to spend most of her time sitting down or will be able to take the heels off during the party, then high heels could be a suitable choice.
What do you think is the right age for kids to start wearing high heels? Have you found a particular high heel shoe style that has worked well for your child’s feet? Please share your finds below so we can all benefit from your experiences!