Is Your Child Refusing to Keep the Shoes On? – Let’s Stop the Struggle!
Does your child keep pulling their shoes off and refusing to put them back on again? Some children find it very hard to express what the problem is with each pair of shoes, and their actual phrase is: “They just don’t feel right”. It’s very hard to treat a problem when we don’t know what the actual problem is. You might be wondering why your child refuses to keep shoes on and how you can encourage them to wear them consistently.
4 Most Common Reasons Why Children Take Shoes Off
Below you can find a list of the four most common reasons children refuse to keep their shoes on and how to overcome them.
1️⃣ Discomfort and Poor Fit
One of the most common reasons children take their shoes off is discomfort. Shoes that are too tight, too loose, or simply don’t fit right can cause irritation. Children are very sensitive to physical discomfort, and they might not have the words to express it. Instead, they show their discomfort by removing their shoes.
You can ensure a proper fit by making sure that there is enough room for the toes to move freely, and the heel should be snug but not tight. A proper fit helps prevent blisters and discomfort. I created a virtual shoe fitting service that will help you retrieve your child’s exact foot shape (narrow, medium, wide, extra wide), and the shoe size they should wear.
2️⃣ Sensory Sensitivities
Some children have sensory processing issues, which means they might be hypersensitive to certain textures or sensations. The feeling of shoes on their feet might be overwhelming or unpleasant, leading them to take them off as soon as possible.
Certain children’s shoes are made from seam-free fabrics and with extra cushion and padding, which makes them ideal for children with sensory issues.
3️⃣ Desire for Independence
Children, especially toddlers, are at a stage where they start to assert their independence. Removing shoes can be a way for them to express control over their own bodies and choices. It’s important to recognize this behavior as a normal part of their development.
Look for shoes that are easy to put on and take off, such as velcro straps or slip-on designs. These are easier for children to handle themselves and can reduce frustration.
4️⃣ Natural Curiosity
For some children, taking off their shoes is simply an act of curiosity. They might be fascinated by the process of removing their shoes or curious about how their feet feel without them. This is a part of their exploratory nature.
Children refusing to keep their shoes on is a common issue that can be addressed with patience and understanding. By recognizing the reasons behind this behavior and choosing comfortable shoes, you can help your child feel more at ease.
Are You Looking for Specific Shoe Recommendations?
I understand that it can be overwhelming to choose the perfect pair of shoes for your child and without a doubt, children’s shoe needs can vary depending on their age, activity level, and any specific foot conditions they may have.
Put your child’s shoes on and have your child point them out at the area where the discomfort is coming from. Depending on which area of the shoe your child points at, we can start addressing the issue. Once you identify the area of discomfort, you can contact me via email and I will get back to you as soon as possible. I am happy to help you find the perfect pair of shoes for your child.
Getting the Correct Types of Socks – Seamless and Breathable
Some children can’t stand how seams feel, so it’s important to find a pair of seamless socks. Does your child like to wear socks that feel really tight? I have noticed this pattern among most children with sensory processing issues. Take a look at another article I wrote that describes how to make sure you provide your child with the correct sock size and which are the best seamless socks for kids.
Some parents describe how traumatic it is every time they need to go anywhere and it’s time to put their child’s shoes on. Now that school started, I have been contacted by several families who explained to me how awful it is to get their children through the door of the classroom with shoes. Please be patient until you find a pair of shoes that work. Remember that your child is complaining for a reason!
